Can you please advice me how to get rid of my evil thoughts? I’m married for 9 years, Alhumdullilah. My husband gives me everything of the best. Recently I have been hearing whispers of my husband’s voice. Since then I keep on accusing him of chatting to someone. It also affects me more that he is working from home during this COVID-19 situation and accuse him further on his work calls too. I have spoke to a Hakeem and he who told me that there’s a jinn in the house. I’m reading Manzil everyday and spraying the Manzil water around the house. I’m afraid if I don’t get rid of these thoughts it will affect my marriage.
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
You state you experience problems with evil thoughts regarding your husband. You also affirm that your husband is a person that treats you well. Sister, it is evident that these thoughts are from the whisperings of Shaitan.Shaitaan is the avowed enemy of humans.The whole purpose of Shaitaan’s existence is that he may try to misguide humans. One of his primary missions is to cause discord between a husband and wife. Consider the following hadith:
عَنْ جَابِرٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ” إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ – قَالَ – فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ ” . قَالَ الأَعْمَشُ أُرَاهُ قَالَ ” فَيَلْتَزِمُهُ (رواه مسلم:2813)
Translation:Jabir reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension) ; the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” The Satan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” A’mash said: He then embraces him. (Muslim: 2813)
When such thoughts occur, recognize they are from shaitan, and recite Ta’awwuz immediately.Exert yourself to ignore and dispel such thoughts. Continuing to ponder on such thoughts will only be aiding Shaitan in fulfilling his mission. Continue to affirm your husband’s innocence and carry on with whatever work you are doing.
There are many ways to overcome and deal with your Waswasah problem. Try and make a routine of reciting Quran as much as possible. Verily Allah Ta’ala says:
وَنُنَزِّلُ مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ مَا هُوَ شِفَاءٌ وَرَحْمَةٌ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ ۙ (سورة الاسراء: 82)
Translation: And We send down of the Qur’an that which is healing and mercy for the believers (Surah Al-Isra: 82)
Hereunder are some supplications you may recite to combat the whisperings of Shaytaan:
رَبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَنْ يَحْضُرُونِ [المؤمنون: 97، 98]
Translation: “My Lord, I seek your protection from the evil whisperings of the Shaytaan, and I seek refuge with You, my Lord, from their presence.”
لاحول ولا قوة إلا بالله
Translation: “There is no power and no might except with Allah.”
أعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ الشَّيْطَانِ وَشِرْكِهِ
Translation: “I seek refuge in you from the evil of my soul and from the evil of Satan and his companions.”
Try your utmost to recite the Du’as whenever you experience such thoughts. One should also try and read Ayat-ul-Kursi abundantly. A key point that must not be forgotten is Du’a. Turn to Allah in humility and make sincere Du’a that Allah alleviate you from your predicament.
You should also consider seeing a psychologist to help you adequately deal with your Waswasah problem. We also advise you to listen to the following discourse delivered by my honourable teacher, Mufti Ebrahim Desai Hafizahullah, in regard to dealing with Waswasah:
You may also read the following book: Combating the Whisperings of Shaitan by Shaykh Yunus Patel (Rahimahullaah) for effective methods on dealing with waswasah.